Still shaking…

The people of Japan, including those of us that have more recently found ourselves here, have had just over a week to absorb the sudden devastation that appears to have claimed upwards of 25,000 lives and displaced an additional 170,000. In additional to the unfathomable loss of family and friends, as the sensational images spread all over the western media attest, entire communities, up to 10km inland, were laid to ruin with barely 15 minutes warning.

On Friday, March 11th, 15 hours after the earthquake, I ate dinner by myself at a Thai restaurant in Calgary, Alberta and had the misfortune of overhearing a conversation between four professional adults about the tsunami. While they were not likely highly influential people, they struck me as relatively well-educated and as somewhat representative of the norm. It was hard to hear them gloss over the shear magnitude of the situation to pass judgment on people of Miyagi for not fleeing more quickly. In my mind, I imagined those that tried to run, might have successfully gathered a few precious belongings or supplies, only to find roads locked with traffic.

It was hard not to get up out of my seat and explain to them that to move 10km in Japan, particularly in a densely populated city, would have been nearly impossible in those fleeting minutes. Having spent more than a few nights in Sendai, I could have also shared how flat it is and how higher ground would have been far away for most. I could have explained that people would have just been beginning to sweep up broken glass in their homes and offices when the tidal wave warnings sounded. Further, the steep topography and population density of Japan requires that people live and work on any and all flat ground and isn’t like North America where people can avoid the flood plains. I don’t know if I could have explained that in places the tidal wave was as tall as a 3 story building and that flood plain or not, this was unstoppable.

As hard as it was to listen to this conversation, it wasn’t malicious. Their words only revealed ignorance and perhaps a natural defense mechanism to help convince themselves that in the same situation they would have been safe. To some extent we all play these games. If you smoke, you convince yourself that you won’t be battling for your life against lung cancer. When we drive, we believe we won’t be in a fatal accident. When you live in a seismically active location like Japan, smaller earthquakes become a part of life – we’ve felt 4 in Yokohama, just today. With the slow progress at the nuclear power plant in Fukushima, we are becoming more and more accustomed to the reality and lexicon of atomic energy.

While the situation in Japan continues to unfold, milk and eggs are back on the shelves. There lines are gone at the gas stations and while it is 20 yen more per litre than it was just a week and a half ago, things are beginning to return to “normal”. For me personally, I haven’t decided what I want normal to be just yet. If normal lacks empathy like the conversation in the restaurant, we’re better off without it. If normal means not living in fear of escalating radiation, I’m hopeful for it’s return. One memory from all of the images of the past week that I am not willing to let go of, however, is that of the Mika Sato in Ishinomaki, broken after finding the body of her daughter, Airi, in the charred kindergarten bus that was caught by the tsunami while bringing the children home after school. The news report read that the children in the bus were found “huddled together”. As a parent of two small children, I can and can’t imagine this level of devastation. Normal must mean moving forward but at the same time making sure we do not forgot to look back to appreciate what we have. As painful as it is to accept, it isn’t always possible to protect that which we most cherish. – AC

13 Responses So Far... Leave a Reply:

  1. Sunita Devadas says:

    very poignant and beautifully written Adam.

  2. Audrey Brown says:

    Powerful Adam. As always, amazing words and reflections. thanks. Audrey

  3. Dennis Stanworth says:

    These are times to reflect and write and you have done both Adam. Thank you for sharing. I in turn will do the same but at the moment, my thoughts seem to be all jumbled up.

  4. Kip Durney says:

    The image of the “huddle” that impales my mind and heart is truly painful and almost impossible to shake free.
    As the father of three small children, two of which barely survived their birth, my life’s goal has been to protect them at all costs. Unfortunately, my life’s most feared reality endures: ” it isn’t always possible to protect that which we most cherish.”

    And that sucks.

    My heart breaks for Japan and the families that have, first hand, experienced life’s most feared reality.

    • Adam says:

      Hi Kip,

      Thanks for reading and posting about this. I agree entirely that there is something about that idea, that mental image, of kindergarten children taking comfort in the presence of each other that won’t leave. It reminds me that when we face insurmountable odds the most natural thing is to turn to each other.

      The question implicitly raised in your post is what to do when we are faced with challenges like the ones facing the families in Sendai, or the ones, it sounds like, you and your family have overcome, or those that lie hidden, but in waiting, to confront us at any moment.

      The dilemma is to find strength to overcome and the security to persist. People turn to religion as a ready answer, but for me it’s more complicated than that. The context of life where this all plays out may require faith but it also seems to require intelligence, effort, empathy, awareness, intentionality and criticism among many more.

      Thanks for sharing of your experiences with parenting and your thoughts regarding the situation in Japan. – AC

      Read more of Kip’s ideas here on his blog – http://tubalub.com/

      • Kip Durney says:

        I couldn’t agree more Adam. The gift of faith, in the religious sense, is unfortunately not something that was given to me. I need to rely on other innumerable sources of hope and strength to somehow accept and persist, while at the same time protect and think about what makes sense for me, my family, and the world that I love.

        I’m grateful for your post because it triggered that fight or flight awareness in me and most importantly, made me appreciate what I have. And isn’t that the best gift of all?

        Thanks again – I look forward to following your blog as it’s comforting to know that my greatest fears and hopes and thoughts, in some ways are not just my own.

  5. Beth says:

    Adam, Your writing is a gift. And your reflections are powerful teachings. Beth

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  7. Adam says:

    Thanks everyone for reading this post and your kind comments. With the power plant progress so slow and the aftermath in Tohoku still developing, it has been very helpful for me to write and process the issues as they unfold. That my work here seems to be of interest and benefit to others is unexpected but very welcome. Thank you for your interest and your support – Adam

  8. Jared Clark says:

    I admire your reflections Adam. I am finding the really big questions perplexing when real world experiences don’t square with assumptions about how things were. I am learning about the value personally in persisting to set things right where I am planted when there is no time but this present. Picking one’s self up to take the next steps in the journey is easier said than done. Optionally, what else might one prefer to do so as to make a constructive difference?

  9. Feraille Cowan says:

    Sorry for those ignorant Canadians. Its not a comfortable reality to face up to, I agree. I can’t imagine it myself, even being here and seeing how fragile life can be every day for many. But the loss of a child, well I am sure that there is no comfort to be found in that experience and so we as parents live every day with a kind of faith. I am not a very religious person, but I must admit that I do pray for my children when I get those pangs of knowing I must let them go.

    • Adam says:

      Hi Feraille,

      Thanks for your reply here. While I overheard those comments in Calgary, they were far from unique to Canadians. I heard from someone else that they overheard the same types of comments in an airport from people clearly not Canadian. I think it is our need to maintain a sense of security given the true fragility of life that causes us to find fault in situations like this. Rather than finding fault, looking to the divine to take care of our children is helpful and positive. It also frees us from the fetters of trying to maintain a safety net that we cannot create.

      You’re perspective, coming from someone who recently rode out the turmoil in Egypt, is such a gift. Thank you.

  10. Sonya terBorg says:

    If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.
    Meister Eckhart (German Philosopher)